I will not react to hate with hate.
I will try to understand those I do not understand—not shut them out or call them names.
I will learn effective ways to encourage others to love more, even those who are different in person or opinion.
I will learn effective ways how to help others fear less.
I will step up more to help others—especially those who do not have the privilege I happen to possess.
I will not be silent when I see others show unkindness (including “jokes”) to people of color, immigrants, the poor, women, and others.
I will listen more.
I will allow myself to grieve but I will NOT freeze. I will let this feeling make me stronger and get more involved.
I will not give up hope.
I WILL LOVE.
If YOU can help me learn how to effectively get involved, how to help increase love and acceptance in others, how to help decrease fear, and how to speak out when I see hateful acts, I welcome this advice now and in the future. Post your thoughts, ideas, and links in the comments of this blog post or share with me on Facebook or Twitter.
What if every Seattleite who is worried about their power going out during this weekend’s storm took a moment to donate just $10 to the homeless shelter of their choice? Can you imagine the impact we could have as a community?
Tonight, I’m grateful for the roof over my head. Because losing power (and internet! OMG!) is nothing compared to out in the cold, blustery elements.
Tonight, I’m donating $50 to DESC. Join me in donating to them (or your favorite shelter organization)!
If you have a favorite homeless shelter organization, please feel free to tell me about it in the comments. I’d love to learn who YOU support and why.
Here are five “pockets” that I thought y’all might appreciate this week!
Swink Style Bar & Susan Grace Skincare free event + giveaway
My client Swink Style Bar is co-hosting a free event with Susan Grace Skincare on June 2 + they’ve launched a giveaway for a free blowout and a trio of skincare products to celebrate. You can enter to win via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or all three.
My Mom, Dad, and fiancé had an incredible tasting with caterer Blue Ribbon Culinary Center this week. We’re going to try some more potential caterers for our wedding in Seattle, but this place really impressed us and is definitely on our list. The port-infused goat cheese and fig bruschetta was one of our favorites.
“Tonight You Belong to Me”
I rediscovered this gem on youtube this week of a dad and daughter singing a duet. Still one of the cutest things on the internet:
This is one of my favorite google chrome extensions. One of my bad online habits is having too many tabs open at once. With a click of a button, OneTab collects all your tabs onto one page for you to easily delete what you no longer need to view and keep the rest on the list to reference later.Total game changer!
Everytown for Gun Safety
The “Inside Amy Schumer” show introduced me to an organization called “Everytown” an organization focused on bringing together Americans to end gun violence and build safer communities. Every day, 91 Americans are killed by gun violence. Let’s work together to educate the masses and make a change.
Brandon and I hosted a pre-funk at our place, enjoying snacks and drinks and many laughs with some friends. Alida and Erin (two of my closest girlfriends) and their husbands Will and Paul arrived before the party started, as planned. The perfect start to a beautiful night. Alida had baked a delicious cake (her own Earl Grey tea invention) and decorated with white frosting, red hearts, and black lettering — matching our red, white, and black inspired circus outfits. Friends came in and joined the fun, bringing libations, food, and (most importantly) love, hugs and so much positive energy. Here’s Brandon and me at our pre-funk:
Erin and Paul gave Brandon and me a ride to the party after we kicked everyone out of our place to head to the venue. We timed it just right, arriving just before the band went on stage. I was able to hug and dance with friends and listen to the incredible, energetic, fun sound of March Fourth Marching Band. I love their circusy outfits, on stage energy, stilt walkers, performers, and musicians. Add being surrounded by some of my favorite people: a perfect birthday celebration!
While dancing with friends, I noticed Brandon wasn’t around for a bit and started missing him (he really is so cute and fun to dance with, it’s easy to miss him). I was thinking of wandering a bit and Erin told me she was probably going to leave soon and I should stay and dance with her before she had to head home. Alida looked toward the stage and pointed out a giant cat mascot that had appeared. I laughed and said it was “sort of creepy”. Then the stilt-walker announced that they were giving away a t-shirt to one lucky audience member. He said they had all the names of everyone there in the hat (“yeah right” was my aside). After a drum roll, they called…my name! I thought “sweet! I’ll pick it up from their merch booth after the show,” when I realized they were gesturing for me to come up on stage. I threw my coat into Nora’s arms to hold for me and headed up through the crowd, hoping the jump up wouldn’t be painful on my recently bruised ribs. The stilt-walker presented me with my t-shirt, to which I threw him a hand-heart sign. Then he told me I might want to look to my left.
I turned, and this is where everything went into sloooooooow motion. Brandon was there, in the cat mascot outfit with the head off. My mind went to “this is quite the birthday gesture” (totally bouncing off the idea that this might be anything more than that). He stepped up to the microphone, and my mind somehow concocted “Oh, maybe he’s going to sing? Did he prepare a song?” SURE, brain. Great guess.
Speaking into the microphone as he looked at me, he said, “Keridwyn Marie Deller, you’re the love of my life. Will you marry me?” then dropped to a knee holding a ring in his hands. I dropped down to his level to hug him and might have said something like “Is this real?” He laughed and said “Is that a yes?” and I said “YES!” through my cry-face. I was 100% shocked. It took quite a few minutes backstage talking with him to let it sink in it was actually real. Who am I kidding? It took days to really sink in. I am overjoyed.
After some backstage hugs and talking (I have a vague recollection of asking him hilarious questions like “Did you know this was going to happen?”), we went out to an overwhelming amount of hugs and love from our friends in the audience and rocked out with the band for their final songs. I cried at least five more times before the show was over. Brandon’s face was beaming with happiness and I was on cloud nine: we are engaged! I had zero idea this was going to happen. ZERO. My boyfriend of over eight years is now my fiancé! I’m so grateful we get to spend the rest of our lives together, and while we already knew that was the plan, I’m thrilled for this next fun adventure in our relationship.
Big thanks to our friend Will for his awesome video:
Here’s a photo Paul Levy snapped. I don’t think I’ve ever loved a photo of my cry-face more:
As a recap, my five picks for this appearance included:
SANCA – The School of Acrobatics and New Circus Arts in Georgetown! Take a Flying Trapeze class or drop in on Friday’s for their Pay-Per-Flight sessions. This fantastic school also offers series and one time classes in tumbling, aerial work, gymnastics, strength training, and more for kids and adults.
The Electric Boat Company – be captain for a day! These cute duffy boats in South Lake Union fit up to 10 people. You can bring your own picnic and wine with you for a gorgeous ride on the lake with family and friends.
Olympus Spa – One of my happy places. Their Lynnwood location features different temperature hot tubs, a cold plunge, sauna, steam room, and (my favorite) multiple silent heated rooms. Don’t forget to try the bibimbap in stone pots in their Korean restaurant.
Seattle Chocolates – these are my favorite chocolates! Their “Here’s to You” flavor is Dark Chocolate Truffle with natural Turkish popping candy. Let it melt in your mouth for a delicious experience akin to pop rocks. Available at Bartell Drugs, PCC, and other shops around town.
Big Picture Theater – perfect for a date night or a fun experience with friends. This place has a total speakeasy feel to it, with comfortable little nooks to sit and chat before the show. This is a 21+ theatre. It has a fantastic bar AND you can pre-order a drink to be delivered to you during the movie. Be sure to order popcorn with white cheddar or truffle butter, served in swanky champagne buckets.
These fabulous businesses have provided gifts for me to giveaway to my readers in the coming days and weeks:
- A Gift Card to SANCA good for tuition or merchandise.
- A certificate to Olympus Spa in Lynnwood that includes a day pass, a body scrub, and a body moisturizing service. (Giveaway is now live on my blog!)
- Treats from Seattle Chocolates – perfect gifts for Valentine’s Day.
- A Movies & Martinis gift certificate from The Big Picture – includes movie passes and cocktails for two and a bucket of popcorn.
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Thanks again for checking out my segment. If there’s a business, restaurant, or experience that YOU love that you think I should feature on my blog, tell me in the comments below.
Special thanks to New Day Northwest’s host Margaret Larson, who is a true delight, great at her job, and puts her guests totally at ease. Many thanks as well to the show’s producer Joseph who was wonderful to work with.
Until this summer, I didn’t realize how easy it was to become a potential bone marrow or blood stem cell donor. I thought you had to go into a hospital to get a painful test just to find out your type. This is NOT the case! You can do it from home and the test is free AND pain-free.
Friends and readers, I implore you to take a moment and get yourself registered as a potential donor for people in need of bone marrow and blood stem cell donations. Simply visit the Delete Blood Cancer site and take a quick quiz to see if you are eligible. If you are, request a home test kit to be sent to you. Then you just use the swabs they send you (rub them inside your mouth as directed) and mail them back. It’s really that simple. No cost to you and takes nearly no time. This could SAVE A LIFE.
It’s incredibly hard to find a match for people in need of blood marrow and blood stem cell donations, but if we all register, we can help each other. In 75% of donation cases, it’s very similar to donating plasma (where they take your blood, whirl it around to separate out what they need, and then give it back to you).
The Delete Blood Cancer has a great FAQ page (answering questions like “Does donating hurt?” and “What’s the difference between bone marrow and blood stem cells?”) and they are also available to take your questions.
Special thanks to Amanda Zurita for introducing me to Delete Blood Cancer. When I visited her Instagram account, I read this in her bio:
As a fellow auntie, I couldn’t help but click through and register. Let’s do this. Let’s all get registered. For Amanda’s cutie nephew and all kids and adults everywhere in need. There are so many illnesses that we can do nothing about, but this is not one of them! Just think of the happiness you’ll bring to so many if you’re able to save a life. Thanks to all my friends who have already registered, and Amanda for the inspiration and education. Join us.