Why you might want a “Follow” button on your personal Facebook page (and how to add one)

by Keridwyn Deller

Are you aware of the option to add a “follow” button to your personal facebook page?

(If you want to know what it looks like, you can view/click the one on my personal page at fb.com/keridwyn.)
I’m going to share the WHY first and then follow that with instructions on HOW after that. If you know you already want one, feel free to skip down to the part that says “So you want to have a “Follow” button too? Great. It’s easy.” 
Reasons WHY you may want to add a follow button:
Having a follow button on your personal facebook page (the one that you add and request friends from) allows people to follow your public posts without having friend status with you. In other words, when you share a post publicly, both your friends AND your followers will see it.
Maybe you get a lot of friend requests from people who admire you but who you don’t know well enough to “facebook friend.” Maybe you own a school or run an online course. Or work with clients. Or are an expert in your area and like to educate others. Or maybe you just don’t want to be facebook friends with everyone. Maybe you like to limit friends to people you have a certain level of intimacy with but still want to allow others to see what you have to say.
Some additional benefits of adding a follow button:
 
You can get the word out more by sharing public posts. When friends or followers see these posts, THEY can share them too and everyone they share it with will see it and be able to share. If you share something privately and a friend shares that post, only your mutual friends will see it.
Follow buttons = less awkwardness. You get a friend request from someone who doesn’t fit your definition of facebook friend. If you delete the request, they become a follower automatically and will see your public posts (and they won’t be notified you didn’t friend them).
You may want to expand your reach as an influencer or knowledgeable source. Here’s an example: Say I take a workshop from a yoga instructor named Amanda. Amanda doesn’t know me, she only taught me some moves! But I am a fan of Amanda and want to learn more about her. Plus, she seems pretty cool and I want to hear more about what she’s interested in. Now, if Amanda has a “Follow” button, I don’t have the awkward choice of deciding if I should send a friend request to her to stay in touch. I can just follow her! Thanks, Amanda!
Having a follow button is helpful for me as I’m in the wellness industry as a Hypnotherapist and because I run a Seattle entertainment blog. I work with clients in-person and online and am gearing up to take my group workshops online too and reach hundreds of additional clients. I get followers for these reasons. I choose to post some content publicly, some to “Friends-only” and some to select group of friends. It’s pretty great to have this feature.
You get the point. 
 
 
So you want to have a “Follow” button too?
Great. It’s easy. Here’s how:
1) Go to facebook.com and be sure you are logged in to your personal account (you’ll see your current personal profile pic at the top to the right of center.)
2) Click on the down arrow on the bar at the top of the page. It’s a tiny down-pointing triangle at the top near the far right side. This pulls up a drop down menu.
3) Select “Settings” from the drop down menu. This will pull up a new screen.
4) On the left, click “Public Posts.”
5) On the next screen, in the center near the top it says “Who Can Follow Me” – select “Public” in the grey box.
Facebook explains this (and a bit more about checking who is following you) here.
Any questions? Just ask. You can message me directly via my form at keridwyn.com/contact. Oh, and of course you can also follow me on facebook at fb.com/keridwyn. 🙂
After you set up your follow button, give yourself a gold star!
– Keridwyn

instagram.com/keridwyn

As a social media marketer for 8+ years, I’ve had this question a lot. So I finally wrote a post about it. G Hope it helps. Drop me a line in the blog comments or via FB if it did (or if you have questions or need clarification on anything. If you have a question, it’s likely others do too.)

Screenshot 2019-09-16 at 9.15.06 PM.png

Pocket Potpourri: Podcasts, thank you notes, aliens, short stories, and a trans film festival

Pocket Potpourri:
I’m bringing back “Pocket Potpourri” posts – my way of sharing a handful of tidbits in one fun post.
What I’m listening to: By the Book Podcast
I’m so grateful to my friend Nora for introducing me to this fantastic podcast a while back. The fate of this podcast was up in the air for a while but they’ve been picked up by Stitcher, thank goodness, and are planning for their next season. Your delightful “By the Book” hosts, Jolenta and Kristen, read a self-help book and apply it to their lives for two weeks and report back. These two are charming, funny hosts with a lot of great insight. Some of the episodes expose the ridiculousness of some books while others are quite inspiring. They pick a wide range of books for their show so it’s always entertaining. I recommend starting at Season 1. Or if there’s a particular book you’re interested in, jump to that episode first and then go back and start with Season 1, episode 1.
What I rediscovered: Paperless Post
There’s always more room for gratitude. I really enjoy taking the time to write out thank you notes, but sometimes I don’t find the time to do this – often times this becomes a lesser priority on my to-do list and I push it off until it’s far too late. Luckily, the folks at Paperless Post reached out to me recently and I was reminded of this fun online-card service. I’ve sent a few thank you notes to friends recently and it was a delightful experience to pick out an online card for them and send it to them. Would I rather have all the time in the world and send a paper card? Sure. But I feel like sending a virtual card is better than no-card at all, and paperless post sure feels a lot different than a text or FB message. I’ve used this service in the past for invites for special occasions too (save the dates, baby showers, bachelorette parties, special birthdays). It’s a great tool to collect RSVPs for events as well if you want something a little fancier than a Facebook event page but don’t feel the need to hand address every card.
Something that’s been making me smile: Strange Planet
If you haven’t checked out this cartoon, delight may await. 😉
Strange Planet by Nathan W Pyle
Screenshot 2019-04-28 at 10.22.29 PM
Book I just finished: The Thing Around Your Neck
This collection of short stories by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie was emotionally rich with diverse stories of characters in Africa and Africans in American. While a few of the stories left me feeling hanging, wanting to know what happened next for the characters, I enjoyed this collection quite a bit as a whole. If you are unfamiliar with this talented author’s work, I recommend you start with her magnificent book “Americanah.” The Ting Around Your Neck” was my 11th read of 2019. You can see my full list, here. What’s the last book you loved reading?
What you should watch: Translations Seattle Transgender Film Festival
Coming up May 2 – 5, The Translations Seattle Transgender Film Festival is a groundbreaking film festival that provides the Pacific Northwest with a venue for films by, for, and about transgender, non-binary, and gender-diverse people and the issues facing the community. Launched in 2006, Translations is one of only a few transgender film festivals in the world, and places emphasis on visibility and positive representations.
Opening night features award-winning “The Garden Left Behind.” There’s also a free workshop and shorts event on “How to Be a Trans Ally.
Festival Trailer:

Brené Brown’s new Netflix special, The Call to Courage, is the 76 minutes of inspiration you’re looking for this week

It’s pretty likely you’re one of the millions of people who have seen Brené Brown’s TedTalk from 2010. If you haven’t (or if you want a fresher), you can find it here (complete with a transcript for those of us who like to read along).

Her books, five of which are New York Times bestsellers, have made a huge splash in the self-improvement reading world. (I have read the Blinkist version of a few of her books as well.)

This inspiring Texan woman is back with her own Netflix special. “The Call to Courage” has more to say about vulnerability and its relationship to courage as well as some fun behind the scene glimpses into her life and experiences after that TedTalk video went viral (she thought only 500 or so people would see it!). It’s a snug 76 minutes and I enjoyed the heck out of it. I recommend you check it out (and I would love for you to come back and share your thoughts in the comments below or on my Facebook page)! I love having the chance to discuss inspiring videos with others (and my attempt to create a virtual-TedTalk-inspired-by-bookclubs-club never really took off) – I truly mean it when I say I want to hear your thoughts!

I took some notes for myself during my watch-party-of-one but am putting them after a bit down the page so you don’t have to read any spoilers. Ok, so self-improvement flick “spoilers” don’t have the same intensity as spoilers of the final season of “Game of Thrones,” but I’m still careful not to share spoilers. (I’m looking at you, friends who are sharing funny-but-STILL-SPOILERS images right now.)

My notes & thoughts on the show are below. These are just notes I jotted down when watching the Netflix special, so they may not all make total sense out of context. I recommend you watch the show now, then come back to read my thoughts (and comment with your own).

UPDATE: I have a LOT of notes, it turns out, but writing them all out was helpful for me, personally. That said, it’s a TON to read through so I have no hard feelings if you don’t read through them all, as they are a personal recap of the takeaways I wanted to remember from the show.

Screenshot 2019-04-22 at 8.30.16 PM

Continue reading

Inside Pocket: 3 tips for KonMari’ing shared belongings with your partner

My KonMari’ing has returned after a brief hiatus.

Two nights ago, I revisited my bags and backpack drawers and felt that good whoosh of success after completing it.

Up until now, almost all of my KonMari’ing has been on my own belongings (clothes, books, papers, accessories, miscellaneous stuff). Occasionally he’ll check out what I’m getting rid of (in case there’s a costume piece he wants to keep that I don’t), but mostly he’s just been my supportive cheerleader as I tackle my stuff on my own.

Last night, Brandon and I started our joint kitchen KonMari’ing.

There are three agreements that Brandon and I made before we got started last night. I wanted to share these in case it helps others who are “choosing what to keep” and getting organized with a partner.

1) Before diving in, we agreed that we didn’t have to do the whole kitchen and pantry area all at once, guessing we would be happier if we broke it down into shorter segments. (When we were wedding planning, we came up with the phrase “I love you and I’m at a good place to stop” when we reached a limit – we applied that concept here.) Sometimes it’s good to push to get to the end of a project, but not always. Sometimes it’s better to have a successful same-team-win feeling a few times in a row rather than hitting an exhausted level and having some communication breakdown.

Continue reading

Air purifier for smokey Seattle + Headspace & Elevate apps

The older I get, the more importance I put into my physical, mental, and emotional health. I wanted to share a few things that I’ve found to help improve my health and well-being!
It’s been an incredibly smoky summer in Seattle and the puget sound. I grew up with asthma as a kid and am incredibly sensitive to the smoke in the air, so have kept my windows shut during the smoky days, even during the heatwaves. I was thrilled to connect with the folks at Levoit who provided me with an incredible air purifier. Not only is their price excellent compared to other air purifiers of the same strength, the shape is easy to fit in any room and it’s lightweight enough to move from room to room. Not all air purifiers filter out smoke, but this one filters 99.97% of dust, pollen, smoke, odors, mold spores, and pet dander. It’s super quiet, easy to use, and distributes air at a cooler temperature. I’ve found it’s helped cool down our bedroom some while also cleaning our air – bonus! There’s an auto setting that will let the machine work as hard as it needs to. I’m so grateful to have this in my life!
LEVOIT AIR PURIFIER WITH TRUE HEPA FILTER LV-PUR131
MEDITATE WITH HEADSPACE
Headspace is a great app & website that can help introduce you to guided meditation or just encourage you to keep your practice going on a daily basis. The app’s voice is very soothing and the program introduces you to the process of meditation and offers different styles that can help with a variety of concerns including anxiety and sleeplessness.
headspace
CHALLENGE YOUR BRAIN
The app Elevate offers three new games a day to help challenge your brain in math, language, and beyond. These games are well designed, fun and quick to play, and the app tracks your progress of each game over time to show you how you’re improving. Not only does this help your brain, it gives you an emotional boost for doing something to improve yourself and succeeding at the games.
elevate-1
How are you taking care of your body, emotions, or mind this week?

My Crepe Paper Crown Tutorial (with the Lia Griffith team!)

Part of the joy of planning my wedding was creating paper flowers for my table decorations. I stumbled upon a free rosebud tutorial by Lia Griffith and was hooked. It was fun to share crafting time with family and friends as the wedding grew closer. Part of my parent’s wedding gift to us was my gorgeous dress (that I found at the Brides for a Cause pop-up shop in Seattle) and after some experience creating paper flowers, I started day-dreaming of creating a crown that echoed the dress’s delicate flower design. As luck would have it, I won Lia Griffith’s giveaway which included a trip to Portland to craft with Lia’s incredible team. My mom and I had an incredible weekend away and Lia’s team was so excited to help us turn my idea into a reality! I now have a total craft-crush (that’s a thing right?) on the whole team at LiaGriffith.com. Their membership program is totally worth it (I joined as a paid member after my trip). I’ve bought quite a bit of crepe paper now, and Lia’s is the best!

lia1

(Shout out to Swink Style Bar for my hair and makeup – exactly how I wanted it!)

Check out the full story—and the tutorial!—on Lia Griffith’s blog here.

From Lia Griffith’s blog: 

“When we threw a competition surrounding the launch of our Spring Garden Collection at Joann Fabrics, we couldn’t have imagined a more perfect winner. We flew Keridwyn and her wonderful mother Jeanne down from Seattle to spend a day with us here in our studio in Portland. The timing was ideal – her wedding was fast approaching and she had been dreaming of finding the perfect paper floral crown. Designer Jessica helped Keridwyn make her dream a reality and the results were stunning. We recently received photos from the wedding, shot by Jackie Donnelly. In addition to her bridal floral crown, Keridwyn made centerpiece roses, bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, and more floral crowns for her ring bearer and flower girls. We’re thrilled that everything turned out so beautifully! Congratulations to the happy couple! And thank you again for sharing your creative spirit with all of us here at Lia Griffith, Keridwyn!

lia2

Check out Lia Griffith’s step-by-step tutorial to show you how you can make your very own bridal floral crown.

Screen Shot 2017-08-07 at 10.04.27 AM

Continue reading Lia Griffith’s blog here.

Now, I’ll get back to dreaming of the day I own my very own Cricut machine. I’m also going to try to make the “Crepe Paper Iris Flowers” soon. I think paper flowers make great gifts, especially for those you want to send some love as they heal from health issues or process through their grief.

Check out more photos of paper crowns, bouquets, and centerpieces in my Facebook photo album here. 

 

BrandonKeridwynWedding-538-538.jpg

You can find the tutorial for the crowns I made for our ring bearer & flower girl on Lia Griffith’s site as well!

BrandonKeridwynWedding-171-171.jpg

The roses in the bridal bouquets and the boutonnieres were adapted from Lia’s rosebud tutorials (just add more large petals to make the roses for the bouquets a bit bigger).

lia5

corsages

Rose bud and peony flowers (the latter from the nieces’ crown tutorial) adapted to create wrist corsages! These would make great hair clips too. In retrospect, I would have made the wrist corsages with ribbon instead of elastic or as pins, as the elastic was a bit too tight.

Brandon&Keridwyn-148.jpg

Centerpiece flowers and heart shaped “petals” cut from crepe paper around the table.

Photos by Jackie Donnelly.